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I’m stuck. I don’t know what to do

by Lisa Lyford
I’m stuck. I don’t know what to do

“I’m stuck. I don’t know what to do!” This was the nature of a recent conversation with a friend. Her girls are all but grown up and less dependent now. Her life has evolved around them. She chose a job that fitted around her childrens’ needs. She no longer has any hobbies and doesn’t play sport.  She’s at a loss as to what to do next.


Sound familiar? Are you at a stage in your life where you don't know what to do next, which direction to head in?


I was in a similar space about six years ago. I was looking for the next big thing. I was also half expecting/wanting it to just turn up on my doorstep.


After much soul searching, I decided on something radical. I needed a shake up and a wake up. I needed to feel alive. I needed to remove myself from my comfort zone to enable me to think differently and allow new things, people and thoughts into my life.



I signed up for Outward Bound!!


To most, this is no big deal. It was to me. I am not a fitness, outdoorsy sort of person.


Outward Bound was the hardest and yet most rewarding thing I have done, aside from having my children.


Our team of 5 men and 5 women, all 40+ (one woman was 68 - you’re never too old), were put through our paces for 8 whole days. Our boundaries were constantly pushed. 



Scott Watch, May 2010.  I’m front row, 2nd left.



Outward Bound taught me I am far more capable than I give myself credit for. It gave me a better understanding of myself, it gave me renewed confidence in myself.


Whilst it didn’t happen immediately, it served as the impetus for my change. Would I have started Gorgeous Me if I hadn’t done Outward Bound?  Who knows.  But I sure am glad I did it.



Little steps towards change


I’m not recommending everyone rush out and sign up for Outward Bound (though I do highly recommend it - if I can do it, anyone can), but I am suggesting you start to take little steps towards change.  Start something new, a hobby, a sport, a fitness programme. Just give it a go. If you don’t like it, try something new. You never know what doors it might open for you, or certainly put you in a positive frame of mind and help with your thinking.



Go on, try something new. 



Mt Taranaki


This is me at the summit of Mt Taranaki last year with my Outward Bound team buddies - one of our many adventurous reunions.




You may also like this blog we wrote earlier - Variety is the Spice of Life  




Cover image:  sorry, original source unknown.



Dedicated to my gorgeous friend RH x

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